What does a marriage mean?

If you check the meaning of marriage on Google, this is the result you get: the legally or formally recognized union of a man and a woman (or, in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship. Marriage is much more than this. It is a lifelong commitment of two people to each other, to share all their happiness and sorrows, to support each other through all the hardships in life and to be loyal to each other. But the fact is that it’s really difficult to find married couples who justify this sacred relationship. A lot of times I see couples who fight like cats and dogs, and I’m not referring to the fights which are a result of the immense love and care that they have for each other; it’s the fight between people who can’t stand each other but still have to be together just because their parents want them to be together or because they have responsibilities of their kids. But who are we fooling here, do the kids want to watch their parents scream and throw things at each other or would they prefer to see them cursing the day they got married, wouldn’t it make them lose their trust in this whole arrangement? Marriage should be a beautiful relation where you wake up every morning to the smile of the person who loves you the most and sleep next to them every night thanking God to have them in our life. If a person is not in love with the one they are married to, that marriage has no foundation and it would be better to walk out of a failed marriage rather than living everyday in a state of misery. Please do not get me wrong, I do not mean that people should not make an effort to make their marriages work, what I’m trying to say is that a marriage is based on the foundation of love and trust and if either of these two is missing, the marriage is bound to fail. I see people staying with their cheating spouses just because they think marriage is a compromise but it doesn’t have to be that way. Marriage shouldn’t be called a compromise and it shouldn’t be one. It should be the beautiful journey two people embark upon, with lots of love for each other and the dedication to make it work. It is not easy but then it’s worth the effort if the person holding your hand means the world to you and they feel the same about you.

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